Are You Too Hard on Yourself? 10 Ways to Find Out

Are You Too Hard On Yourself? 10 Ways to Find Out

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and


Are you too hard on yourself?

The simplest way to answer this question is to ask yourself:

Am I happy?

Because your happiness and how hard you are on yourself definitely go hand in hand. And it’s all tied right into things like your worry and anxiety. So let’s explore right now more about whether or not you might be too hard on yourself.

And then below, you’ll learn ways you can start loving yourself more.

Here’s the first video that goes along with this post:

Answer these questions:

10 Ways to Tell If You Are Too Hard on Yourself:

  • Did you grow up in a critical home?
  • Do you feel like your parents put a lot of pressure on you at times? And you couldn’t always measure up?
  • Have you always put too much pressure on yourself? Do you try so hard, but it never seems to be good enough.
  • Do you feel like you were picked on or treated poorly by a sibling or a friend more than just the usual sibling rivalry or friendly jabbing?
  • Are you critical of others? This is a sign that you are critical of yourself.
  • Do you get frustrated with yourself easily? Do you actually hear yourself saying things to yourself like, “You dummy!”?
  • Do you put yourself down often in front of others? This might just be self deprecating humor. But, it can also be a sign that you pick on yourself inside too much.
  • Do you blame yourself a lot for things in your past or in your present? It’s good to take responsibility. But, it’s not good to constantly live in regret.
  • Are you critical of yourself around certain family members or friends? This not only diminishes your self love, but could be a sign of an unhealthy relationship you have with that person.

    You might have learned to appease their ego by putting yourself down when you’re with them. In fact, they might put you down often and you’re so used to it, you don’t even notice it anymore.

    And have you ever called them out on it and their answer is, “You’re too sensitive?” Guess what? You’re not too sensitive. They are not good for you. If you were too sensitive, you’d be sensitive around everyone. Don’t you have plenty of family members and friends who never make you feel bad about yourself? Who you never feel too sensitive around?

    You can learn some good strategies to either limit your time around people like this and to start sticking up for yourself with them.
  • Are there things about yourself that you’ve been wanting to change for years, but can’t seem to? This is another sign of being too hard on yourself. You haven’t given yourself the support you’ve needed. Time to start becoming your own best friend!

12 Ways to Turn Self Criticism into Self Love:

“Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.”
Byron Katie

Here’s the video that goes along with this exercise:

  1. Start treating yourself with as much love as you do your children or a child you know.
  2. Start praising yourself. Start supporting yourself. Catch yourself when you are being critical and replace it with self compassion and encouragement.
  3. Treat yourself as you do your best friend.
  4. Every time you look in a mirror from now on, instead of finding a flaw to focus on, notice something positive about yourself. Come up with an affirmation for it.
  5. Surround yourself with people who love and encourage you. End or really limit all negative relationships.
  6. Stop the habit you’ve probably had most of your life of comparing yourself to others.
  7. Celebrate your wins all the time big and small. I like to toast to a glass of ‘champagne’ often.
  8. Have you stopped celebrating your birthday? Why?
  9. Love the parts of your body you’ve been critical of for years.
  10. When you say what you are grateful for each day, include something about yourself.
  11. Love yourself so much that you don’t need other people’s approval of you. And you don’t give a rip about what others might be thinking of you.
  12. Could you pamper yourself more? This doesn’t necessarily mean just a mani or pedi. What little things can you do during the day? Like throwing out old pj’s and wearing new ones, for example. You’re worth it!

A Fun Exercise to Boost Self Love:

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”
Robert Morley

Think of 50 things you love about yourself. You can write them out on paper or just list them in your mind. You can do this exercise all in one sitting or during the course of the day.

If you can get to more than 50, that’s even better.

Usually, what begins to happen is after a certain number, you have to really start thinking of things. That’s ok. Keep going. It’s so worth it.

Because once you do keep going, you’re going to actually feel a shift in
your energy – a lightness. That’s your vibration raising.

If you do this exercise on a regular basis, it’ll open up a new awareness in you. You’ll start noticing things you love about yourself automatically and you’ll start replacing self criticism with self love.

Thanks for reading!


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