Paula’s second book Finally Worry Free was just published this past Summer 2020.
Notice: I’m in the process of making some edits to this book. So, it will be available again soon. TY!
It includes over 75 easy exercises to help you get into your subconscious mind and begin changing the negative programming that’s at the core of your worries and anxiety. (A sampling of two chapters is below.)
You can purchase a paperback copy on Amazon here.
Paula self-published her first book Simply Being Happy in 2017.
“On graduation day, there’s this unspoken rule that now it’s time to grow up and get real. Instead, the principal should hand out each diploma and say, “Here kid – good job. Now go out and learn to use your imagination to the fullest.”
Simply Being Happy
Excerpt from Introduction
Get your paperback copy on Amazon here.
Here are a few book reviews:
“I would like to express my great appreciation to Paula for this fascinating book. It has inspired me to become a happier person. She has taught me to replace my worries with positive, uplifting thoughts and this has allowed me to live a more peaceful life.”
Author of the book Chateau sur Mer and three childrens’ books.
“I believe that Paula has really hit on something powerful and possibly pioneered the way to finding true deep and meaningful happiness. Having dealt with depression my whole life, after reading and putting into practice her ideas, I feel as though I have a whole new lease on life.”
“I love this book! It is the best self-help book I’ve ever read. Paula teaches amazing visualization techniques that I’ve never heard of before.”
Here are Two Beginning Chapters of Finally Worry Free:
The Five Pillars of Becoming Worry Free
“Our entire life consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.”
Let’s get into the 5 Pillars of this book right now. They are the 5 main areas that I believe a person needs to focus on to finally become worry free.
All the exercises in the chapters that follow will fall into one or more of these areas. (As you can tell, I interchange both words, worry and anxiety, throughout the book.
You can also tell I’m not a very technical person. I know they have very different definitions. But for me, I never needed to get picky about which of those two words I was using when I was studying all that I was learning.
So I am completely comfortable interchanging them throughout the book. I hope you are too.)
These pillars might seem overwhelming. But, the good thing is that the tools and the exercises I’ll teach you are all really simple. So simple, a child can learn them.
In fact, I hope we do start teaching them to children. Believe me, if a young boy can learn the complicated, graphic, violent, adult game of Fortnight, he can learn how to say, “I am great!” to himself and understand why he’s saying it.
This book will help you:
• Replace negative beliefs hidden deep inside.
We all operate our entire lives from them. It is said that “I am.” are the two most important words ever spoken.
Most of our beliefs were created when we were very young. We formed conclusions about ourselves, about others, and about the world based on what was happening to us and around us.
You’ll learn how to not only seek them out and identify them, you’ll also learn how to begin replacing all the awful ones with empowering new ones.
• Clear away the negative programming.
This is about all that ruminating and worrying you can’t seem to stop at times. Those bothersome thoughts, images and feelings that keep popping up no matter how much you refute them on a conscious level.
In science terms, it’s the neurons that fire together wire together. You’ll learn lots of different ways to start replacing those patterns.
• Change your habit of being so critical of yourself.
Imagine having an awful person in your ear insulting you all day long?
That’s what it’s like sometimes and you probably don’t even know it. Changing this to self love AMAZING!
• Heal your little self.
She’s in there and she might still be hurting from things that happened a long time ago.
You’re going to learn to comfort her, to understand her, to listen to her and give her whatever else she needed then and still needs now. She’s waiting for you!
• Raise your energy.
We are all made of energy at our core. This energy is not only affected by every thought we think and
emotion we feel, but it’s also affecting our thoughts, as well.
There’s amazing science that shows how our energy is vibrating at different levels.
And not to get all weird on you. Ok, I’m going to. But our energy is part of the energy field of the entire
Universe. We are all connected.
We are continuously sending out energy and attracting the same level back to us.
To keep it simple, our energy is creating the quality of our lives. You don’t have to know the science behind it to be able to start working with it.
For me in the book, I connect our feelings with our energy. That’s really keeping it simple.
You Have Everything You Need
“Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.”
This chapter reminds me of the opening song from a show back in the 70s called The Six Million Dollar Man.
The announcer would come on and say, “We can rebuild him. We have the technology.”
Because you have the technology already in you to start rebuilding your new life of finally becoming worry free. You just need to learn the tools.
Unfortunately, so many experts out there are not teaching them like they should be, in my opinion. Not all of the tools listed below anyway.
We hear a lot about gratitude and meditation, for example. But, I honestly think many people just don’t know how powerful all of these tools really are.
And remember a few chapters ago when we talked about our subconscious mind? Don’t forget its basic language: our AFV’s: affirmations, feelings, and visualization.
Any anxiety advice that doesn’t focus on these three things is seriously falling short.
Here are the tools:
Your imagination is like a muscle. And you need yours to be strong in order to make the all the other tools really work for you.
Many people have the mistaken idea that our imaginations are child’s play.
That this incredible gift we were given was only meant for playing house, building Lego towers, and
thinking up great school projects when we were kids.
Or it’s reserved for the creative types and the odd outliers of society.
God, they’re so wrong. Right now, your’s might be weakened from years of underuse. That’s going to change as you continue with this book.
Consider your imagination your happiness muscle. And you’re going to start strengthening it big time.
It’s simply the practice of learning about ourselves and about the world.
We’re all wearing our own colored glasses filtering how we see ourselves and everything in it.
Awareness to me is like taking those glasses off at times and seeing things more clearly.
You know how I talk about getting into your subconscious mind where all your programming is?
Consider meditation the doorway.
And you don’t need to become a monk to do it. In fact, I’m going to show you how to cheat at it.
My favorite math equation is: the more grateful you are = the happier you are.
You’ll see that gratitude is not a result. It’s a cause.
As Rhonda Byrne says, “Gratitude is the great multiplier.”
We usually think of feelings as just reactions.
He loves me, so I feel good. He left me, so I feel sad. It’s sunny out, so I feel cheery.
But, feelings are so much more than this. You’ll learn what a powerful tool they are.
Dr. Joe Dispenza says thoughts are the language of our minds and feelings are the language of our bodies.
I know. I know. The thought of saying affirmations is just so corny.
But, if you want to finally be worry free I say, “Get corny! Get real corny!”
I’ll help you get past all the embarrassment. Besides, the thing is we talk to ourselves inside all day long anyway. It’s natural.
The problem is we’re so used to criticizing ourselves. That’s what’s natural for many of us. You can change this with practice, just like any other new skill you learn.
Think about what worry is. Awful, scary scenes playing over and over again in the back of your mind.
Visualization is all about creating new, bright, beautiful scenes that will begin replacing
all the negative ones. It’s much more than this, though. Stay tuned.